Apr 092019
 

Abundance and Self-Care

As part of self-care it is useful to contemplate abundance – often we ignore self-care as we plough ahead trying to get ahead – yet when we contemplate the truth of abundance, we can relax, we find we are in flow, with grace, with god, with life – yes – self-care, is to live in alignment and to embrace fully the truth of abundance.

A useful question to ask, to contemplate, or to give your attention to, is:

What does feeling FULLY abundant mean to you? Is it all about the Money or are there other arenas where the ideal of abundance could fuel a happier, healthier, more prosperous and joyful you? What does the word ‘abundance’ really mean to you?

When I contemplate this question, this is what I discover:

I am abundant in every good way – to me abundance is heath, energy, activity, action, vitality, well-being, food, nourishment, self-care, stillness, space, time, relaxation, meditation, massage, yoga, movement, soft, suppleness, creativity, art, music, lushness, beauty, nature, view, ocean, water, land, tree, sky, growing food and flowers, comfort, home, having, giving, receiving, releasing, wealth, prosperity, money in the bank, money in flow, coming in and out, lavish, extravagance and wisdom, affording, luxury, indulgence, purity, cleanliness, pristine, purchasing, winning, gifts, joy, love, blessings, magic and miracles, family, friends, finances, cash, supply, sharing, surrender, grace, gratitude, simplicity, saying yes, trust, God, perfection, gratitude, prayer, attention, openness, heart-felt and heart-full, overflowing love, peace, silence, freedom

Abundance Is – I Am

What about you – are you willing to ask yourself these same questions?
What does feeling FULLY abundant mean to you?
Is it all about the Money or are there other arenas where the ideal of abundance could fuel a happier, healthier, more prosperous and joyful you?
What does the word ‘abundance’ really mean to you?

I’d love to hear what you discover – if you are willing to share, please leave me a comment below, or if it is personal, just send me a private message – so much love in this endless flow of life and grace ~ Yantra

Apr 092019
 

Reading as Self-Care

Whilst it may be useful to read and learn about aspects to support self-care – when you are not striving to learn, or do, or to get, when you don’t need to obtain, retain, or absorb – you have the opportunity to be absorbed, and to fall into the pages of a book – often a great book will find you, and you will be found more whole by reading it..

This book ‘ The Utter Relief of Holiness’ by John Eldridge is beautiful, the title is beautiful , the book is beautiful, you feel like you can take a breath just by looking at it – so worth reading

And then sometimes you have the opposite experience that happens …

Have you ever read a book, yes the whole book, only to find the real reason you were drawn to it was not because of the book itself, but because of a single quote written by another author, on the first page, before the first chapter has even begun?

‘Attention, taken to its highest degree, is the same thing as prayer. It presupposes faith and love. Absolutely unmixed attention is prayer’

Another book I read recently was quirky, nondescript, and I wouldn’t recommend it, so I won’t bother sharing the title. However that first page, with this first quote – now that is something, something worth reading, something worth pondering, something worth thinking about, something worth meditating upon, something worth giving your attention to, something so poignant, so relevant, so simple and yet so profound.

‘Attention, taken to its highest degree, is the same thing as prayer. It presupposes faith and love. Absolutely unmixed attention is prayer’ ~ Simone Weil

– I’d love to hear, what book are you reading right now? or what quote or piece of writing really captivates you ?

with love Yantra

Apr 092019
 

Self-care tips

This beautiful and simple list of 10 things, could be used as a guide or reminder to support your own self-care.

~ with love Yantra

1. Listen to your body:

Sleep when you are tired.

Take time for yourself when you need to recharge.

Eat when you are hungry. Stop when you are full.

2. Find a Mindfulness practice:

Yoga, meditation, journaling

3. Gift yourself with at last 30 minutes of movement a day:

walk, go to the gym, take the stairs, park away from the building and walk.

4. Find your Tribe:

find people who support and encourage you and share similar passions.

schedule regular time with them each month

5: Start a Gratitude Journal:

begin or end each day by listing what you are grateful for.

6. Eliminate unhealthy foods:

Avoid added processed sugars and refined carbohydrates

7. Eat REAL food

Shop and eat from the perimeter of the grocery store, buy fresh, buy local, shop at the farmer markets.

8. Drink more water

Fresh, clean, unpolluted, filtered, un-bottled, super alkalized hydrating water

9. Turn off all electronics:

at least 30 minutes before bed in order to sleep better

10. Get outside:

Start a home garden, work in the yard, go for a hike and explore

Apr 092019
 

Self-Care – this one is for the men and those that love you!

As I continue to share about Self-care, and as so many of my beautiful and beloved friends both in life and here on fb are men, I’m aware that many of you many not read these posts, or feel they are intended for you, due to this phrase.

Self-care is for all of us – it is not gender specific!!!

Whilst this is definitely true, that Self-care is for all of us and is not gender specific, the words ‘self-care’ have a feminine sound, it is a phrase not generally used by men.

So, I have been reflecting on the phrases I do hear men use and have also had conversations with my beloved to gain more clarity – and wanted to share our insights on this.

What we uncovered, is that sadly many of the phrases used by the men, are not actually referring to Self-care, rather they are phrases or practices referring to managing stress after the fact, that self-care or any word or phrase meaning the same thing is often foreign or may be missing entirely from the male vocabulary.

Whilst as women, many of us have open conversations about self-care, nurturing and support, in sharing this conversation with my beloved, it became apparent that many men are more reserved in asking for help, reluctant to share that there may be a need for support, or that Self-care as a concept is missing entirely – this has been sad, eye-opening, valuable, revealing, humbling and alarming.

Phrases like:
Stress management – points to already being stressed and needing to manage that stress
De-stress – also points to already being stressed
Stress relief – is the same
Winding down or unwinding, implies again already having been wound up

Maintaining health and fitness, or managing or maintaining mental well-being, seems only to point to one part of the picture.

While phrases like ‘time out’, ‘chilling’ and ‘kicking back’, do seem to invoke a similar quality – is having a few beers, or some entertainment, actually distracting from, suppressing, or covering over the need for true self-care?

A question then arises here – both for you as men and for us as those who love and care about you – How can we use language, and open a conversation, that is supportive of you as men, taking care of yourselves, doing what is necessary, asking for help and support, to have the ‘self-care’ that is required, so that you can live life fully, where stress may not need to arise, need to be managed or suppressed?

So, if you are one of my dear and beloved male friends, I would love you to take some time to read these thoughts, reflections and questions below on Self-care – even if you need to change or alter or disregard the word ‘self-care’ – just know that this is also for you <3

Self-care is really an act of love, an allowing of grace, how we love and support ourselves, or how we are supported by others – to be, do and have, in a way that is aligned with our well-being, with integrity, with balance and love.
Self-care may be very personal or non-personal, there may be specific needs or requirements that are fixed, or very fluid, as we change evolve and grow.

Self-care may refer to activities and practices, that can on a personal level help to reduce stress and enhance overall well-being: essentially, proactively taking care of ourself.
Self-care can help in dealing with the daily stresses in life—from academic pressures, to interpersonal relationships, to future plans, and others.

Self-care may mean doing or not doing, in all areas of life, physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
Self-care may also relate to a wider view, where we include others personal well-being, our community and the environment, as part of self-care.

Over these next days and weeks we will explore this theme and some of these Self-care topics together, which may include these or you may like to add and contribute others:

Rest / Sleep
Meditation
Breath
Practices / rhythm / cycles / rituals
Exercise / sport / movement / dance / yoga
Sound / song / chanting
Physical well-being
Nature
Quiet / silence / space / simplicity
Disconnecting /pulling back / regrouping / reassessing
Time out / Stopping
Support / Asking for help / sharing
Speaking up / being heard / truthfulness
Creating / art / making / buil
ding / repairing
Cleanses / clearing / change / letting go
water / food / diet / nutrition / juices
Therapies / healing
Touch / massage
Sensuality / sexuality / sacredness / intimacy
Reading / Reflection / Journalling
Relationship / friendship / Community
Travelling / exploring / Adventure
Sacred circle / gatherings / ceremony
Prayer / puja
Honouring / listening / grace
Balance
Integrity / alignment / trust
Here are some questions to start off with:

* How would you define Self-Care ?

* Is self-care a conscious part of your daily, weekly or monthly rhythm ?

* Are there specific physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual rituals and practices that you have – or need to have for self-care ?

* Have you considered that self-care can encompass a wider view to incorporate, and support others, community and the environment ?

* Is there something you’d like to share or offer about Self-Care ?

You may like to reflect on these, or share in the comments below, or send me a pm – as I’d really love us to engage together in this way – so much love, compassion and support here, for and with you ~ Yantra <3

PS : please share this post with you friends

 

Apr 092019
 
Diwali – the festival of Lights

A little snippet from the 6th November 2018 – an evening of Satsang and celebration for Diwali.

The festival of lights – Diwali or Dipavali in Sanskrit, meaning “row of lamps”; also spelled Divali or Deepavali is derived from the Sanskrit words dīpa, “lamp, light, lantern, candle, that which glows, shines, illuminates or knowledge and āvali, “a row, range, continuous line, series” and symbolises the spiritual victory of light over darkness, good over evil and knowledge over ignorance.

Namaste Yantra-ji

Apr 092019
 

Reflections on Self-Care

Following on from my post yesterday – here are some thoughts, reflections and questions on Self-care

Self-care is really an act of love, an allowing of grace, how we love and support ourselves, or how we are supported by others – to be, do and have, in a way that is aligned with our well-being, with integrity, with balance and love.

Self-care may be very personal or non-personal, there may be specific needs or requirements that are fixed, or very fluid, as we change evolve and grow.

Self-care may refer to activities and practices, that can on a personal level help to reduce stress and enhance overall well-being: essentially, proactively taking care of ourself.

Self-care can help in dealing with the daily stresses in life—from academic pressures, to interpersonal relationships, to future plans, and others.

Self-care may mean doing or not doing, in all areas of life, physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being.

Self-care may also relate to a wider view, where we include others personal well-being, our community and the environment, as part of self-care.

Over these next days and weeks we will explore this theme and some of these Self-care topics together, which may include these or you may like to add and contribute others:

Rest / Sleep
Meditation
Breath
Practices / rhythm / cycles / rituals
Exercise / movement / dance / yoga
Sound / song / singing / chanting
Physical well-being
Nature
Quiet / silence / space / simplicity
Disconnecting /pulling back / regrouping / reassessing
Time out / Stopping
Support / Asking for help
Speaking up / being heard / truthfulness
Creativity / art
Cleanses / clearing / change
water/ food / diet / nutrition / juices
Therapies / healing
Touch / massage
Sensuality / sexuality / sacredness / intimacy
Reading / Reflection / Journalling
Relationship / friendship / Community
Sacred circle
Prayer / puja
Honouring / listening / grace
Balance
Integrity / alignment / trust

Here are some questions to start off with:

* How would you define Self-Care ?

* Is self-care a conscious part of your daily, weekly or monthly rhythm ?

* Are there specific physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual rituals and practices that you have – or need to have for self-care ?

* Have you considered that self-care can encompass a wider view to incorporate, and support others, community and the environment ?

* Is there something you’d like to share or offer about Self-Care ?

You may like to reflect on these, or share in the comments below, or send me a pm as I’d love us to engage together in this way ~ so much love as always Yantra

Apr 092019
 

Self Care is the flavour of the day

This is something I was reflecting upon in September 2018 and thought it worth sharing here:

Many of you have been commenting just how much you had been loving both the short fb lives and the longer shares that I offer on fb.

If you’ve been wondering why you haven’t been seeing much of me lately, either my posts or fb lives ( no it’s not because of some fb algorithms ) it’s been due to the effects of having the Whooping Cough – and it has been a physically difficult month.

Whilst in myself I’m great, really great!! – It is the body which has been struggling – so I’ve had to be lying low – yes literally lying down, resting, not able to speak much or often, or doing much of anything as it brings on the coughing and gripping in the chest.

The blessing of course, is that I love stillness and silence – and so it is such a blessing that I get to rest more deeply, to meditate in the endless silence of each day without distractions, no phone, no computer, no speaking.
Some days are great and even the speaking seems easier, so much so that last week I offered Satsang again for the first time in 3 weeks – the following day my beloved had to rush me to the bio-med practice to squeeze in to see our Dr as I had chest pains and couldn’t breathe.

Well the good news – my chest was clear, so no pneumonia, and this is just a part of the effects of the whooping cough, there is no real rhyme or reason to what brings it on, and I was told some days will be great and others not great – well that’s a relief I suppose.
I have always heard it called the 101 day illness and my Dr assured me that yes it is known as the 100day cough (so I asked her what was the deal with the extra 1 day – she laughed and said – that is the day before you stared coughing 😉 )

And the semi-not-so-really-great-news – as it is known as the 100day cough, she said I will keep coughing for 100 days, or having stops and starts, days or weeks at a time and at the end of the 100 days the cough just stops – just like that – Hey presto – just before Christmas !!! whoo hooo !!! NOT !!!

luckily we ( or is that me ) has a sense of humour 😉

So, Self-Care is the theme!!!!

We had our Women’s Wisdom Gathering on Sunday and our theme was – yes you guessed it – Self Care! Where we looked at what is self-care and how do we consciously have Self-Care as a part of our every day life rather than something set aside or separate.

So it seems that Self-Care will be the theme for this week, next week, and well, I would say for at least 100 days – and as my beloved pointed out today, yes, when the clenching in the chest and coughing started again – even if some of the days are physically challenging, every day takes me closer to the 101 !!!! 😉

As Self-Care is the theme – I will add a little post each day and share with you about Self-Care that may be of support to you – and if I don’t post you’ll know why 😉

Until then maybe you’d like to contemplate what Self-Care means for You – and drop me a comment below

So much love as always Yantra

Sep 242018
 

Radical Responsibility

As a healer, therapist, practitioner, and client, there are so many methods, modalities, therapies, seminars and programs that grace our path to bring deeper insight and realisation, healing, opening, release, and forgiveness.

Like myself, you may have encountered the powerful work of The Journey Method, ‘The work’ of Byron Katie, the ‘Radical Forgiveness’ of Colin Tipping, programs offered through Landmark education, studied ‘A Course in Miracles’, Technologies for Creating with Robert Fritze, NLP, or any number of other methods, modalities, therapies, seminars and programs.

One of the things that these all have in common, as well as to bring deeper insight and realisation, healing, opening, release, and forgiveness – is to take responsibility – Self responsibility, for our path, our journey, our part, our healing, and ultimately our freedom.

Responsibility actual is – the ‘ability’ to ‘respond’ rather that to react – self responsibility is the ‘ability’ to be ‘self aware’ in our responding.

* So, what then is Radical responsibility?

Radical responsibility suggests that we are ‘cause’ in the matter, that everything is happening for us and by us, rather than ‘to us’. That ‘life’ is a direct experiential response from the internal emotional, mental, and energetic goings on within us – and from this – we are generating this experience of life.

We have a direct response to the physical things in our lives and the way we perceive situations and circumstances – this is where we can pause and have self responsibility – Radical responsibility is the shift in seeing that it is we, who make meaning ( consciously or unconsciously ) of what is seen, felt, perceived or experienced.

When we are willing to really look at what is occurring in our life, we can ask:

* Are we responding, or are we reacting to the meanings we are making and attaching to life?

The power of Radical responsibility – is to see the truth ( it may at first require us to heal, to release and to forgive ) and then to ultimately see that all events and meanings, are all our creation, all our own projection, onto the screen that we call life, and that we are the projector.

I’d love to hear – what do you discover by investigating this for yourselves? – just drop me a comment or send me a private message

so much love on this journey, of Freedom Love and Joy
~ Yantra-ji

Sep 232018
 

Stopping the cycle of the ‘Meaning Making Machine’

Yesterday I shared, that we are literally inventing our own reality with the stories we are telling ourselves – through the thoughts that we have.

We give everything we see outside us, around us, and in our awareness, all the meaning it has for us. Even by simply naming something, we are ascribing meaning.

Is there any problem with this – with giving everything meaning, or making meaning about life?

Our thoughts, when constantly recycled and replayed in our minds, become the stories we carry. The more we tell ourselves the same story over and over, the faster it becomes ‘true’ to us and shapes how we feel, perceive and behave in the world.

The problem is that not the thought itself, it is that we are believing the thoughts, believing the stories, believing what we see or perceive as reality – we don’t get to see and experience each other and life as it really is – and so ultimately, we suffer.
So, what can we do to investigate this?

Here are some questions that may assist you to both gain clarity and release, an opportunity to be here as we are, story free, no longer living as a meaning making machine – instead, living clear, present and free, freshly in the moment.

Take some time for yourself, find a quiet place where you can really open to what arises for you through these questions, you may want to have a pen and piece of paper, or a journal to jot down any insights or realisations.

There may be a specific event, or a recurrent theme that keeps arising for you – if there is, use that for your investigation – these questions can be used for any situation, circumstances or event, no matter how old or recent.

Start by checking in with yourself, what is going on for you, what am I telling myself, what has happened, what am I making it mean:

1. What’s happening that is making me make this meaning?
2. What are the actual facts for me from this?
( not the he/she/they did or didn’t or they made me or make me feel – that is the next question – here just state the fact – this is what happened – ‘I spilt the milk’  )
3. What am I making it mean about this situation and this person?
( he/she/they did or didn’t, or they made me, or it is…, they are, they aren’t… )
4. What am I making it mean about myself when this is occurring to me?
( I am… I am not… )
5. What is it like when I do this, when I make this meaning?
How does it feel?
How do I feel?
It feels….?
6. What does it cost me when I keep it around?
7. What will life be like with or without this ?
What is it like when I don’t give this up?
What is it like when I do give this up?
8. Communicate what you discovered doing this with the people involved
( or if you can, get a journey process and do a campfire )

It takes courage, to be real, to be honest with ourselves and with others.

There is such peace and freedom in being with life as it is, being open to what is revealed, present to the moment – such a gift we can give to ourselves and each other.

I’d love to hear how this has been useful to you, what you uncover and discover – please leave me a comment, or if it is more personal you can send me a private message.

Much love to you, on this journey of living a life of Freedom, Love and Joy

Namaste Yantra-ji

Sep 232018
 

‘Meaning Making Machines’

What we see, perceive and decide about something, someone or life, isn’t necessarily the truth – our minds are literally ‘Meaning Making Machines’

Have you ever heard this term before ?

I first learnt about this many years ago when I was in my early 20’s and studying ‘A Course in Miracles’.

We give everything we see outside us, around us, and in our awareness, all the meaning it has for us.

We are literally inventing our own reality with the stories we are telling ourselves – through the thoughts that we have.

Our thoughts, when constantly recycled and replayed in our minds, become the stories we carry.

The more we tell ourselves the same story over and over, the faster it becomes ‘true’ to us and shapes how we feel, perceive and behave in the world.

If you are interested in investigating this further for yourself, I will share a post tomorrow with some questions that may assist you to both gain clarity and release, an opportunity to be here as we are, story free, no longer living as a meaning making machine.

** keep an eye out for my post tomorrow **

much love Yantra-ji