Crazy little thing called ‘love’
‘The minute I heard my first love story,
I started looking for you,
not knowing how blind that was.
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere,
they’re in each other all along.’ ~ From Essential Rumi – by Coleman Barks
Often when people are having an issue with love, I find the line from Queen’s song goes through my mind – ‘a crazy little thing called love’ – it seems that this question about love is arising again, so what is this Crazy little thing called ‘LOVE’?
First let us take a look at the song lyrics from Queen’s ‘Crazy little thing called Love’ …..
….”This thing called love, I just can’t handle it, I must get round to it, I ain’t ready, Crazy little thing called love.
This (This Thing) called love (Called Love), It cries (Like a baby), In a cradle, all night, It swings (Woo Woo,) It jives (Woo Woo), It shakes all over, like a jelly fish, I kinda like it, Crazy little thing called love
There goes my baby, She knows how to Rock n’ roll, She drives me crazy, She gives me hot and cold fever, Then she leaves me in a cool cool sweat.
I gotta be cool relax, get hip, Get on my track’s, Take a back seat, hitch-hike, And take a long ride on my motor bike
Until I’m ready, Crazy little thing called love.
This thing called love, I just can’t handle it, I must get round to it, I ain’t ready, Crazy little thing called love….”
So, how do you feel about love? Is love this crazy thing that you cant handle? Is love this thing that seems just out of reach? Does love have you feel out if control, or makes you want to control others. Is love illusive, overbearing, nonexistent?
What is it that you are defining love as – a thought, an emotion, a sensation, an action, a behaviour, a set of circumstances?
Where do you look for love? do you look to the mind to your thoughts and fantasies, dreams and desires?
Is love this crazy mental activity swinging from one thought to the next, needing, wanting, pleasing, pleading, doing, yearning, longing, planning, imagining? When we stay still, if we just stay here, we discover there is no future, there is no past, there is no suffering with mental activity – then where is love? Rather than love being crazy, you discover what is ‘crazy’ is defining love through the activity of mind and thoughts.
Where do you look for love? do you look to the emotions, to the feelings, to your emotive responses that stem from your fantasies, hopes, dreams and desires? The emotions, where do they arise? Notice how emotions are always arising and falling, changing in intensity and quality, changing name and form. Is love this roller coaster of crazy emotions, elation, deflation, happiness, misery, satisfaction, dissatisfaction, ecstasy, devastation?
Are all of these fluctuating emotions that are arising in the mind and body really love? What if you were to stay still and not grasp any emotion, any feeling no matter how painful or pleasurable – what is discovered – what then and where is love? Rather than love being crazy, you discover what is ‘crazy’ is defining love through the highs and lows of emotional response.
Where do you look for love? do you look to the sensations in the body, to the arousal filtered through your thoughts and fantasies, dreams and desires? Are the physical sensations of attraction, repulsion, pleasure, arousal, really love?
Is love really the physical sensations of pleasure and pain, of arousal, attraction, repulsion, this that makes you sweat and shake and want to get on your bike to run towards or away from love? is this really love – or is it sensuality, sexuality, attraction, desire, lust, need? Rather than love being crazy, you discover what is ‘crazy’ is defining love through the bodily sensations and physical responses.
Where else do you look for love – in circumstances, events, relationships? Where in your life are you feeling like you cant handle love? What is it about love that there is to handle? Where are you wishing that you could just get around to love or or wish the other person would get around to it? Rather than love being crazy, you discover what is ‘crazy’ is defining love through circumstances or events, through any relationships or lack of them.
Where else do you look for love – When we entertain our thoughts, the mental activity, we swing between the polarities of thought, future and past, pleasure and pain – this is all mind – none of it is love. Love cannot be found in the past – where is the past, the past is gone, the past doesn’t exist – try to find it – where do you have to look for the past? What do you discover? The past is only ever in your mind. So love cannot be found by looking to the past no matter how delightful memories may be.
What about the future, where do we need to look to find it, where can it be found? it also doesn’t exist, so all of the mental projections, the longings, the fantasies, are all in the mind, they too don’t exist other than in the mind. So love cannot be found in the the past or the future – what about the present, where is it, can you find it? – even the present is illusive moving from the future to past in an instant. Rather than love being crazy, you discover what is ‘crazy’ is defining love through the past or future or through hoping in the present, which instantly becomes past and future again.
What about any of this, has anything to do with this crazy little word called ‘love’?
So what is it now that you are defining love as?
If you could no longer look to the mind or thoughts, if you could no longer to the feelings or emotions, if you could no longer look to any of the physical sensations or cues of the body, if you could no longer look to outward circumstances, events or relationships to define love – If you could no longer define love – then what remains – what is really here always, available, free, here, now ?
When you surrender everything you thought was love, just surrender and open innocently to this that is here now, unknown – what is discovered?
This that you are needs no definition, this that you are requires nothing in name or form, this that you are is love itself, this that you are is the beloved, it cannot be named or owned, or given or it is you – this that you have been searching for, recoiling from, desiring, pleading with life for – this with no defining is discovered to be love, this that is free, boundary-less, wordless, emotionless, body-less, sensation-less, thought-free, this is love.
Love is the surrendered grace that is everything in every moment. – what a relief !! Now how will your life look without all that previous need to define and seek love – wow – what an adventure you are in for with the divine realisation of your own self – hold onto your hats because this crazy little thing called love is you !!!!
In Satsang there is the opportunity to have your Self revealed to your self , to discover this that you are is Love here and now, regardless of what is showing up as this physical experience. Satsang points to the truth, that there is the possibility to know yourself here and now, as you are, with all of the experiences of the arising of form, of body, of mind, of emotions, of appearances, of circumstance, without needing to fix, change, or alter anything, to be at peace, to be free, here and now – as love itself” ~ Namaste Yantra-ji