Relating, Relationship and staying true:
Last week in Satsang our point of inquiry was The Play of Life which brought to the forefront some questions and inquiry about relating and relationships. To continue to support you, we will delve more deeply this week into this inquiry about relating and relationship, love and staying true. There are so many forms that relationship takes, with life, intimacy, friendship, colleagues, ultimately it is all relationship with self, showing up as another. Let us explore the truth of relationship together.
What really is relationship and relating?
What is relationship designed to do, to offer, to give you?
Why are you stuck, upset, suffering, in your relationships?
What are the ideas, concepts, beliefs that you have about relating and relationship?
What are your expectations that are causing suffering?
When we put all the concepts aside what questions are still here?
What else is here when we are available, to our-self, to the other, freely, freshly in this moment, with no agenda?
How do we stay true and honour this that we are, this that is All and be in relationship, healthily, freely, with another?
Satsang is not about changing you or fixing you, Satsang is not about changing life or fixing life – Satsang is the opportunity to discover what has never been disturbed by any appearance or disappearance. Join us for Tuesday evening Satsang to inquire into what is undisturbed, unchanged, what is true – this that you are, freedom itself.
Here are some beautiful insights from four beloved spiritual teachers Jeff Brown, Brandon Bays, Gangaji ( and her husband Eli Jaxon-Bear ) and Isira Sananda on the topic of relationships and relating, love and staying true.
Quote from Jeff Brown :
” Many of us seek that which we will flee if we find it. I have seen this time and again, both in myself and in others. We seek, we search, and then we find a calling or a relationship that is a perfect reflection of our yearning and we turn away and go back to seeking, almost as though the light of our true-path was too bright for us, too vulnerable for us, too real for us. This is a pattern that we have to recognize and heal or else we will never stop looking for what is already there. True-path is not always around the next corner. Sometimes it’s right under our feet.” ~ Jeff Brown
Brandon Bays on Self love and relationships
youtube Link ( 1min:31 ) please click here to view
Excerpt from A More Conscious Love from Isira Sananda :
“…relationships or marriages are passages of our own growth and awakening: passages we enter into with another in order to awaken to our Self. The ‘other’ potently reflects back all that we are… especially that which is unconscious. It is this way because most people are constantly looking outside of themselves, disconnected from their own essence, unconscious of the beliefs they have collected, and the construct that has formed as their ego – which ultimately drives all actions – especially those which are fear based. Failing to understand this however results in pain, suffering, confusion and disillusionment… dysfunctional relationships and ultimately divorce……
Perhaps if we could approach relationships with a deeper understanding… a more universal awareness, we could take the journey consciously… knowing it is going to be one about growth… knowing that we have chosen it for that very purpose… knowing that really we did not enter the journey to be swept up in the arms of our Prince/Princess to be carried into a blissful garden of joy ‘til death do us part.’….
Sadly, as most people get a taste of higher potential and degrees of spiritual insight they set out to reform their partner… to try to make their partner more conscious. This is still an externalisation… a projection from underlying layers of unconscious beliefs and behaviours… the idea that the problem is outside – in the other person. Although one’s recognition of the partner’s own issues may be true there is only ever the process of self transformation.
‘Other’ transformation does not exist.
If you seek greater harmony and bliss in relationships you must seek greater consciousness in your self….
By seeking the centre of consciousness in your own being you begin to understand your self truly as you are… not as you imagined – not as the images of stored ideas and beliefs that you collected along the way. The more you know and understand your self as you are… the more you can see and understand the ‘other’ as they are… as another aspect of your very own self. With greater understanding comes greater peace, less unrealistic hopes, demands and judgments, and greater harmony. In this way relating becomes truly a journey of joy and love… love that is unconditional rather than love that is bound in illusions and fears….
It is only through the oneness in our self that we can experience a Divine oneness with another… a sustained encounter of relating as divine union.
As long as you come to any other person in a fractured state – still carrying unconscious aspects of your self, you will perceive those fractures in your relationships.
By understanding this… not judging this, you may simply accept this as part of the journey… you may open your heart and consciousness to the process… to see that really… it is all just an adventure of discovery… the rediscovery of what you already are… LOVE.” – Isira